Boss Babes Make the Best Leaders

In my recent YouTube video, I share a little story that happened this month – a testament to the daily balancing act many of us perform. From the morning chaos of getting kids ready for school to juggling professional responsibilities, this day was a reminder of the resilience and multitasking capabilities that come second nature to us. These experiences don’t just shape us as individuals; they enhance our leadership style, making us more relatable, approachable, and understanding leaders.

In this video I also share the essence of what makes women exemplary leaders and why these traits are indispensable in the fabric of today’s society.

The Hallmarks of Women in Leadership:

1. Driving Performance with Diverse Insights

We, as women, approach the leadership table armed with a rich tapestry of experiences. The trials and triumphs that dot our personal and professional landscapes imbue us with a nuanced understanding of the world. This diversity of insight powers superior performance and outcomes, proving indispensable for any organization’s growth.

2. Shaping Tomorrow’s Trailblazers

Our roles as leaders transcend mere managerial duties; we act as lighthouses, guiding the next wave of women toward their shores of success. Demonstrating that persistence, empathy, and intellect can shatter ceilings, we inspire not just belief in possibility but the courage to pursue it.

3. Decisions Anchored in Emotional Intelligence

The innate emotional intelligence (EQ) that we possess equips us with an unmatched proficiency in making decisions that are not just judicious but also empathetic. Our ability to perceive the unsaid, to truly listen, and to cultivate a supportive atmosphere translates into decisions that propel the entire organization forward.

So if you are a woman reading this, take a bow, sis. You are extraordinary and don’t let anyone tell you different. Your ability to balance, to lead, to inspire, and to make a difference speaks volumes. Let’s continue to support, uplift, and empower each other, sharing our stories and successes. Because when one woman shines, she lights the way for all of us. Here’s to us, to our strength, to our leadership, and to our unending capacity to create change. Keep flexing those muscles, keep leading with heart, and remember, the world needs your unique brand of leadership now more than ever.

Together, let’s make every month a celebration of our achievements and continue to break barriers in every field we step into. Remember, your journey, your resilience, and your leadership inspire a world of possibilities not just for you, but for every woman who looks up to you. So shine sis. As Rhianna said, “shine bright like a diamond.”

Closing Out Sisterhood Month with Self-Care and Solidarity

March has been a month of celebrating sisterhood, and, as it draws to a close, I hope each one of you has taken the time to honor your own strength and extend your love to the incredible women in your life. But, before we step into April, I wanted to share with you three important mantras that I hold dear – and I hope you can adopt them too.

Say “No”

Firstly, I want you to remember the power that lies in two letters: N-O. Saying no is not just an option; it is sometimes a necessary response to maintain control over our busy lives. It’s crucial for us bosses, queens, and every woman in charge of her destiny. We are in control, and it’s okay to say, “No, I cannot show up for this event” or “No, I cannot commit to this.”

You must guard your time and energy fiercely. And while it is our nature to be dependable and strong, there comes a point where we shouldn’t feel guilty for prioritizing our well-being. No is a complete sentence, and it deserves a period at its end, not a question mark.

Check on Your Strong Friends

The second point I want to stress is the importance of looking out for those among us who seem invincible. Our community is full of talented, powerful, and influential women, but sometimes, even the strongest among us can carry burdens that weigh heavy on their shoulders.

I knew a Mom in Atlanta who tragically killed her children and then herself. From the outside, it seemed like she had it all – respected in the community, great kids, loved by many – until that unthinkable tragedy. This is a harrowing reminder that we must diligently check on our strong friends. Ask them sincerely, “Are you really okay?” Offer tangible support, whether it’s taking their kids for a day or treating them to a coffee. This not only strengthens the bonds of sisterhood but also reinforces our commitment to each other’s well-being.

Say “Yes” – To Yourself

The third and possibly the most significant thing I advocate for is saying “Yes” to yourself. Once you’ve cleared your plate of overwhelming commitments by saying no, you create space to consent to things that truly matter – to joys that replenish your spirit.

Whether it’s indulging in a quiet bath, committing to a workout routine, or having lunch with friends, these are the moments for you. I’ve kicked off my sisterhood month by doing things that bring me joy – shooting at the range, dancing at a hip-hop class, and reconnecting with old friends.

The whole point of saying no to others is so that you can say yes to what elevates and fills you. Making your needs, loves, and passions a priority isn’t selfish; it’s self-care.

Looking Ahead

As we exit Sisterhood Month and march into April, don’t forget these three tenets. They are not just for the month that honors our sisterhood; they are for every day of the year. They are for the moments when you’re stretched thin and need to reinforce your boundaries. They are for the times when a friend’s smile doesn’t quite reach her eyes, and she needs you more than she says. And they are for the instances when you need to choose joy, choose peace, and choose yourself.

It’s been an empowering month, and I’m excited to carry these learnings into the following days, weeks, and months. Ladies, affirm yourselves, look out for each other, and never forget to carve out space for your own growth and happiness. Take these mantras into April, and beyond, and watch how they transform your life.

Until next time, stay strong, support each other, and celebrate the beautiful sisterhood that connects us all.

Your Guide to Hosting an Unforgettable Book Launch Party

Whether you’re a first-time author or adding another title to your bibliography, a book launch party is a fabulous way to celebrate your hard work, dedication, and passion. I’ve been where you are, and I want to share with you some actionable tips to make your book launch as unforgettable as the stories you’ve penned. And, to give you a taste of what’s possible, I’ll also share footage from my own book launch party—a night that was nothing short of magical.

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Let’s Talk: Four Tips to Communicating with Your Partner

“Let’s talk.” These two simple words can sometimes feel like the heaviest to utter or hear. They often herald conversations filled with misunderstanding or fear of conflict. But what if we could change that narrative? What if ‘let’s talk’ became an invitation to understanding and empathy?

In my new video, I’m opening up about my own experiences – the missteps, the successes, and the lessons learned along the way. Communication in relationships isn’t a one-size-fits-all; it’s a unique blend of understanding, patience, and, most importantly, love.

After watching, I encourage you to share your thoughts. What resonated with you? What challenges do you face in communication with your partner? Your stories, questions, and experiences enrich our community and foster a deeper understanding of what it means to truly connect.

Can You Grow Individually Without Drifting Apart? Exploring Self Growth Within Relationships

Our latest exploration together, “Finding Me in Us: Nurturing Self Growth in Relationships” is a topic close to my heart and one that I know resonates with so many of you. As we journey through life’s ups and downs together with our partners, a question often emerges: How do we maintain our individuality while building a life together? Drawing from my own experiences and the insights shared in my book, “Marriage Business: From Proposal to Prosperity Building Your Dynasty the Fortune 500 Way,” I want to dive deep into how we can support each other’s growth without losing sight of our union’s strength.

Mutual Support: The Foundation of Growth

One of the most transformative conversations I had with my husband was when he reminded me, “I am not your competition.” This simple statement shifted my perspective entirely, from seeing us as individuals navigating separate paths to partners on a shared journey. It’s about embracing the idea that our partnership thrives on mutual support, not competition, allowing us to pursue our individual goals while remaining united.

The Balancing Act: Individual and Shared Growth

Finding that delicate balance between personal development and nurturing our relationship is crucial. It involves open communication, understanding, and respect for each other’s ambitions and dreams. By championing each other’s goals, we not only strengthen our bond but also foster an environment where each of us can flourish.

Growing Together Through Individual Strengths

The beauty of a relationship lies in how two strong individuals can come together to create something even more powerful. It’s like a garden where each plant contributes to the overall beauty. This analogy reflects how giving each other space to grow individually can lead to a vibrant and resilient partnership.

Turning Challenges into Opportunities

Life will inevitably throw challenges our way, but it’s how we view and tackle these challenges that define our relationship’s strength. Drawing on my background in strategic planning, I suggest looking at relationship hurdles as opportunities for growth. A strategic approach, such as conducting a SWOT analysis, can help us understand our relationship dynamics better and plan for a stronger future together.

Living Your Purpose Within a Partnership

Pursuing our individual purposes is vital for a healthy and joyful relationship. When we live in alignment with our passions and encourage our partners to do the same, we bring vibrancy and fulfillment into our relationship. Supporting each other’s dreams ensures that we both can grow without feeling held back or neglected.

Conclusion: Our Legacy Together

“Finding Me in Us: Nurturing Self Growth in Relationships” is more than just a discussion; it’s a call to action for all of us looking to deepen our connections while honoring our personal journeys. By applying these principles, we can build a legacy of love, mutual respect, and shared growth—a true dynasty of the heart.

I hope this conversation sparks reflection and inspiration in your relationship as much as it has in mine. Remember, it’s about finding yourself within ‘us,’ nurturing your growth, and celebrating the journey together.

I invite you to watch the full video below for a deeper dive into these insights. Let’s embrace this beautiful balance of growing individually and together, building a legacy of love and mutual success.

Your journey of self-discovery within your relationship is a testament to the strength and resilience of love. Join me as we navigate this path together, enriching our lives and relationships with every step we take.

Join Me in Atlanta for Cocktails & Conversations

I’m inviting you to an evening that promises to be both enlightening and exhilarating – Cocktails and Conversations with Bonika Wilson.

We all know relationships are the bedrock of our lives, but let’s be honest, navigating the sea of love isn’t always smooth sailing. That’s why I’m hosting a night where we can spend a little time talking about relationships, tackling everything from love’s challenges to overcoming conflict and finding that elusive balance.

Event Details:

  • Where: Atlanta
  • When: February, 22 | 6:30 PM

This is a chance for us to come together, share our stories, and learn from one another. Whether you’re single, in a relationship, or in an “it’s complicated” status, there’s something for everyone.

And what’s a heart-to-heart without some libations? Expect a variety of cocktails to sip on as we chat, laugh, and maybe even shed a tear or two. It’s all about honest, open dialogue in a relaxed, friendly environment.

This event is particularly close to my heart. I believe in the power of community and conversation to spark change and growth. So, if you’re ready to explore the complexities of relationships and how to nurture self-growth within them, Cocktails and Conversations is where you need to be.

Space is limited, and trust me, you won’t want to miss this. So, click the button below to secure your spot. Let’s make it a night to remember – one filled with insights, inspiration, and, of course, a bit of fun.

Looking forward to meeting each and every one of you. Let’s raise a glass to love, life, and everything in between!

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Welcome to Bonika Wilson’s empowering blog, The Business with B. Discover valuable insights on life balance, relationship advice, financial tips, parenting insights, and business strategies. Join our community for daily posts on personal growth, community building, and navigating life’s challenges. Let’s embark on a journey together – from career success to philanthropy – and turn challenges into triumphs. Welcome to a space where empowerment meets daily insights for a balanced and enriched life.

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How much can your employee’s actions cost your organization?

President and CEO at WCM Firm Inc.When people tell me, “our company can’t afford diversity training right now”, my response is, “your company can’t afford to forgo diversity training, especially RIGHT NOW!As organizations realize the benefits of a diverse workforce, diversity and inclusion are becoming more of a business imperative. Organizations are creating diversity and inclusion programs, establishing diversity task forces or employee resource groups, hiring diversity officers, and conducting diversity training in the workplace.WCM Firm will help your organization take a holistic approach to build a diverse and inclusive culture. Training is an effective tool to promote diversity and educate employees on diversity and inclusion practices. Your employees must understand how their thinking, conscious, or unconscious, will play a role in their day-to-day interactions with co-workers, customers, partners, vendors, and others.Implementation of a diversity training program is also an important step in helping to reduce the risk of workplace discrimination and harassment claims. In settling discrimination cases, the EEOC often requires companies to educate employees on the importance of diversity in hiring and promotion, and how to avoid stereotypes. Additionally, your employees’ actions, on the clock or off the clock, play a huge role in what your stakeholders and the community thinks about your organization. WCM Firm is here to help you avoid situations like Ken Gill at CPI Security, John Schnatter at Papa Johns, and Amy Cooper at Franklin Templeton. If you don’t think your employees’ actions and biases, whether conscious or unconscious, can hurt your reputation, ask Minneapolis police chief, Medaria Arradondo how costly his employee, Derek Chauvin’s actions were to him, his department and his city. WCM Firm is happy to announce it’s I3 Information Into Intelligence™, diversity training program will be offered virtually beginning July 6, 2020. We will be selecting 3 police departments and 2 community leadership classes the course free during the month of August and September (up to 30 participants). We are committed to making the communities in which we live inclusive, safe, and equitable.

The Business of Marriage: How to apply successful business practices to have a healthy and HAPPY marriage

Introduction:

Why do we plan?

Couple: Jada and Will

Successful businesses – Business Plan

Successful teams – Game Plan

Successful buildings – Floor plan

Successful marriages = Marriage Plan

After 26 years of working with business owners and 21 years of marriage, I have put together the blueprint which I believe will SAVE marriages.  Marriage, like a business, is a contractual union where one seeks to receive a tangible asset.  By definition, a business is an organization or economic system where goods and services are exchanged for one another or money.  A marriage is a formal union, which binds and unites two individuals legally, economically, and emotionally.  Both a business and a marriage are formed through a contract to fulfill a need and receive something in return.  After years of advising businesses and their owners, what I have always appreciated was the opportunity to guide them from their business plan.  Whenever the owner or CEO would come into my office with a problem, the first place I would direct them would be to their business plan or their strategic plan.  Often the solutions to their problems were either there or guided us to the solution, which made advising them less complex.  I remember being in my office one day and thinking “wouldn’t it be nice if I could solve marriage problems in a similar manner?”  I thought if I could guide my married friends back to their purpose, their mission, and their vision, that would be awesome!  Further, great business plans and strategic plans offer employees directives on the way in which they behave.  These guiding principles are found in the way of core values, or some organizations refer to them as a value statement.  I quickly envisioned telling my girlfriend during her next call for advice, where she would vent about some unreasonable thing her husband had done, and I would respond by saying “let’s reflect on the core values of this union”.  I hope by now you are laughing at the thought, but I am hopeful that at least you find yourself intrigued to want to explore a concept like this a bit more.  Identifying, agreeing to, and staying committed to your core values and guiding principles will be the most important factor in sustaining a happy and healthy marriage.  I recently read an article about Will and Jada Pinkett Smith, and it was clear to me that their guiding principles and values were centered around commitment, loyalty, and the allowance of individuality within the marriage.  After being married for 20 years, here was the advice that they shared:

 

“Being married is the hardest thing you will ever do; you must find your happiness independently and don’t expect your partner to make you happy!” says Jada.

 

Will commented, “We don’t even say we’re married anymore. We refer to ourselves as life partners, when you get into that space where you realize you are literally with somebody for the rest of your life,” Smith shared on the podcast. “There’s no deal breakers. There’s nothing she could do — ever. Nothing that would break up our relationship. She has my support till death, and it feels so good to get to that space.”

 

“Here’s the thing about Will and me — [we] are family. That is never going down. It’s just not. Ever,” the 46-year-old said. “We are family. Take out all that marriage/relationship crap, at the end of the day, Will and I are family. I am going to hold him down, it doesn’t matter.”

The actress continued: “All that relationship and what people think and ideas of a husband, partner and all that, man, whatever. At the end of the day, that is a man that can rely on me for the rest of his life, period.”

Successful marriages, like successful businesses, take resiliency and commitment.  What are the commonalities of successful businesses?  After a successful commercial banking career, and a desire to start my own company, I asked myself that important question.  I have always subscribed to the ideology of, if you want to achieve something, find someone who has achieved it and become their understudy.  So, I went on this quest to understand the characteristics of successful businesses and just as important, the characteristics of the CEOs or entrepreneurs that led these organizations.  What I unequivocally discovered is that successful businesses start with a good plan and a commitment to executing the plan.  Some of the organizations had a written plan while others chose a more casual approach by selecting to have a verbal plan.  However, each organization, and most of its leaders, had begun the journey with a strategic plan or a business plan.  I am reminded of the familiar quote “To fail to plan, is to plan to fail.”  As I recollect my days as a commercial banker, I quickly recant the many commercial loan requests I reviewed.  Every loan request review began with a deep dive into the business plan.  I remember the excitement of taking the journey through the eyes of the hopeful and adventuristic business owner, oftentimes, feeling limited and restrained by my own conservative and risk-averse mindset.  The business plan served as the roadmap for the owners and leadership teams.  The business plan was also a lens for the external stakeholders to understand the mission – the purpose of the organization.  For me, as a banker, financing a company was not only about the purpose, but so often, I wanted to know their “why” – the company’s vision.  You may be asking yourself, “why does that matter?”.  The reason the “why” is so important is that the “why,” should guide how the company makes decisions.  My analysis of the company was not solely “can they repay today?” but how will they make long-term decisions, that in essence, will affect their ability and commitment to repay throughout the life of the loan.  In understanding their mission, I understood their purpose for existence.  “What are we here to accomplish today?” The vision helped to understand the “why do we exist,” and “what are our future goals?”  The vision addresses “because we exist,” this will happen.  Stated differently, the vision says, “We exist to make this happen, this different or this better”.  The vision allows companies to make decisions that are in line with supporting their goal, versus the mission which focuses on accomplishing the current or daily goal.  The mission could change but the vision should never change unless the company has undergone a buyout, merger, or some other significant transition.  

Now, you may be thinking, what does all this business jargon have to do with marriage?   The concept is what has saved businesses for centuries.  It’s having an effective, well thought out plan and executing on it, in an intentional, inspiring yet accountable way.  It’s about identifying your purpose, as a couple, and being intentional about living for that purpose daily.  This book will help you understand how to realize your vision, be purposeful about your mission, be guided by your values, and be strategic about accomplishing goals.  The gift is in the approach to lovingly supporting each other, to fulfill your legacy in a way where you know you are unstoppable because you are on a mission with someone who is beside you to ensure you succeed.  After you complete this book, you will have tools to be a helpmate for your spouse on this marriage journey.  Your spouse will realize how invaluable your role is in their life, and that ultimately fulfilling their role happens because your partnership exists.  You will understand how to lovingly hold each other accountable by performing monthly check-ins and how to ensure your partner is a helpmate and not dead weight.  After all, wasn’t the purpose of marriage to give and receive something?  Your marriage can and should be the most powerful asset you have!  Through this partnership you should be able to utilize and sharpen your gifts and talents, to make you, your family, and this world better.  This book is better than a business plan, it is a marriage plan.  This is your first step to having a healthy and HAPPY marriage!